21 tips for seducing a girl or woman with a man - how to act correctly

Men want to be successful. How to seduce a girl is a frequent question that arises in connection with the desire for success everywhere - at work, in self-realization and, of course, with women.

How to seduce a woman, how to attract enough so that she first wants intimacy. Follow 21 tips! And how to dispose of this desire - to breed for sex or, perhaps, to have a serious romance - you decide.

Take your time

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes guys make when dealing with women. Haste-

Men impose themselves, bombard with messages, force events, already on the first date they pursue a policy of "love, buy, fly, whatever you want -".

This behavior clearly translates the desire to drag your partner into bed right now, immediately. This repulses, creates a number of ideas about you in the girl:

• Your main priority is sex.

Understand correctly: it's okay to get acquainted just for the sake of sex. You don't always need a serious love affair. Girls, too, are only interested in sex.

However, the rules of the social game dictate: you must not let each other understand that only sex is needed. Because what is actually needed is not sexual release (otherwise, your way out is masturbation). You need a feeling, "features". That an attractive partner likes you.

By rushing, you break the rule, destroy the illusion. Perhaps you consider this approach to be businesslike, sincere, but the girl seems selfish, hasty, looking for an object for the embodiment of sexual desires. Plus, young men of this kind are considered by girls to be bad lovers - in a hurry, "put it out, take it out, go".

• You are desperate without sex.

This means that you are a bad lover: hasty, selfish, seeking to satisfy personal needs at the expense of your partner (by the way, read the exact signs on how to understand that a girl has finished).

So slow down.

You look good

"Women love with their ears" - a myth. Look in the comments under the photo of any handsome actor - you will see that with the eyes of women, they also love. If you want to be liked, it is important to look good.

Beautiful clothes will emphasize attractiveness, show confidence, lack of shyness about appearance, the ability to emphasize strengths - qualities that are strongly associated with a good lover.

What will help you look attractive:

• Analyze strengths, highlight with clothes.

Nice neck, collarbone - unbutton a couple of buttons, looks pretty damn sexy. Beautiful wrists with prominent wreaths, strong muscles - roll up your sleeves.

• Tidiness.

Alas, there are people who have to explain that underarm bushes are unpleasant to see for both sexes, socks are supposed to be changed daily, and your mouth should smell good.

Are you not like that? Congratulations! But: clothes, shoes, teeth, hair - clean, from the smell of sweat - get rid of, nails - cut and clean, skin problems - treat, excess hair - remove.

• Comfort.

Of course, relate to common sense: it is better to wear a suit for a meeting in an expensive restaurant, even if you are more comfortable in sweatpants.

The main rule: neatness, appropriateness in a given situation, comfort.

Listen to the woman

A common mistake: filling the entire conversation with yourself, not being interested in your partner. Bad news: it will not attract, but rather alienate your friend from you.

Everyone is pleased when they listen, make it clear that he is interesting to the interlocutor. Women are no exception. Be a considerate conversationalist:

• Practice active listening.

This means that you are demonstrating to your interlocutor: you are interested, listen carefully. To demonstrate, do not break eye contact; respond to the story with facial expressions.

Insert remarks confirming that you are listening: "Aha", "And then?" - demonstrate that you follow the flow of the story, delve into, "live" the situation.

• Ask open-ended questions.

These are questions requiring detailed argumentation, disclosure of thoughts. As a rule, they begin with the words "what", what "," why "" how ".

For example: "What do you think about the desire of our scientists to break into space, explore other planets?", "What comedies do you like?" >

So you show the interlocutor interest, care for her thoughts. Plus, by asking a woman, you will learn information for further seduction.

Life hack: this works especially well with married people: in marriage, women often face emotional rejection, when husbands do not listen, are not interested. They are especially pleased to feel interested, which means it is easier to seduce.

Confidence

Confidence, openness captivate.You want to be with a confident person, communicate, a confident guy is much more attractive than an insecure one.

A confident guy exudes charisma, he attracts, seems to be reliable, self-sufficient, trustworthy. These are all seductive qualities for women.

Tips on how to impress a confident person:

• When talking about yourself, use specific data. Not "I work in the banking sector," but "I work there, I do this and that." Confident people have nothing to hide behind streamlined language.
• Tell openly, but simply, do not emphasize your importance. The interlocutor will catch this even without deliberate underlining (and will undoubtedly appreciate it, you can be sure).
• Tell less than her, leave information "in reserve": this kindles curiosity, there is a desire to learn more, you become intriguing, mysterious.
• Don't dominate (it's too early). Seduction is a conversation between two people striving to get to know each other better, to get closer, and not a presentation of your unique achievements, starting with the "Russian Bear" Olympiad in the third grade.

Make it laugh

Laughter seduces purely physiologically. A person laughs - a bunch of hormones from the blood are injected into the brain, which are responsible for the feeling of calmness, happiness, joy, satisfaction, intimacy (possibly intimate).

Therefore, at a purely physiological level, a person who laughs, causes these emotions, begins to associate with something good. Surely among your friends there is an ugly, not very young, but funny, and therefore popular man.

Tips:

• Prepare in advance.

On a date, people are often nervous, lost, seeing an attractive partner. Usually you are cheerful, talkative, sociable, you know a ton of funny stories, and in front of a pretty woman your tongue dries up to the sky, a monkey hits cymbals in your head. Frequent occurrence.

To prevent it - remember funny stories from life, anecdotes that you know how to tell funny stories in advance. There is no need to write down, just remember - then the brain at the right moment will be able to reproduce everything that is needed for seduction itself.

• Self-irony.

A safe bet. Shows that you are self-ironic, which means that you are confident, you have no problems with self-esteem and you really know what you are worth - it is always seductive and captivating (girls appreciate this). Plus it doesn't offend anyone.

• Avoid mistakes.

Specifically: do not direct your wit against the interlocutor, this can easily offend; do not make jokes based on discrimination against anyone (an argument may arise, a woman may find the joke offensive), do not make fun of acquaintances - gossip does not color anyone.

Body Language

Only 15% of information about a person is read through words, the rest - through gestures, body language, transmitting certain feelings from the personality.

With the right presentation, you will create in a woman a sense of self-confidence, seductive, sexually attractive, interesting, intelligent person. To do this:

• Stay confident, relaxed, do not strain.

Erect posture, open postures (without crossed legs and arms), relaxed shoulders, slightly raised head - all create the feeling of being "at ease" in control of the situation, which is seductive.

• Train a woman to touch.

At the stage of the first acquaintance, the main problem if you want to transfer acquaintance to a horizontal plane is how to move from small talk to more interesting activities. Light, unobtrusive touches help here.

Gently touch your hand to draw the woman's attention to something, touch the waist to direct her steps, take an arm, lightly touch your shoulder, lean closer to her while listening to her story - this will at the same time demonstrate that you are interested .

Most importantly: act delicately, unhurriedly, unobtrusively. Do not try to seduce her with touching right in the restaurant - in your pants because you stroked her leg, the girl will not climb, but you will create a feeling of preoccupation.

Smell

Smells cause certain associations, sensations, moods in people physiologically. Many scientists believe that a person will be attracted to another as a sexual partner - it depends on whether the second likes the smell of the first.

Therefore, use a high-quality perfume, and if you invited a woman home, light incense to fill the room with the desired aroma. For example, smells are considered sexy:

• patchouli;
• ylang-ylang;
• needles;
• marine scent;
• cardamom;
• carnations;
• citrus fruits.

Create an atmosphere

It is difficult to seduce if there is a flea market around, McDonald's, searching for a free table, shouting "free box office!" and the smell of cheap burgers.It is much easier - if you are in the intimate twilight of pleasant seclusion, quiet, soft music plays in the background, candles are burning, and you are like two together in the whole world.

Invite the woman to the right places - such as described above - or create an atmosphere at home. Light incense, turn on sensual music, light candles, cook (order) a delicious dinner. There is nothing more seductive than a man who tries so hard for you.

Nobody canceled the voice yet

Another tool for seduction, given to men by nature: a sensual, deep voice, like a velvet cocoon, enveloping a woman from all sides and making her mad.

For a seductive masculine tone, find an interview with Alan Rickman, listen to songs by Elvis Presley, Ed Sheeran or the lead singer of Hurts.

To make your timbre look like a feminine ideal, follow these tips:

• Learn to breathe with your belly, not your chest, this makes your voice lower.
• Speak with your head held high and tilted slightly to the side, as if holding a violin with your chin. This engages the muscles that pull the larynx downward, causing the voice to sound lower.
• Breathe through your nose - it calms, and when you are calm - the timbre sounds lower, more attractive.
• Watch your posture. The voice is the air that comes out of your body, if the body is twisted, the timbre will not be beautiful.
• Do the yawn exercise. Imagine a yawn - this relaxes the larynx, vocal cords, deepening the sound.
• Another exercise: Take in as much air as possible and hum as low as you can until the air runs out.
• Speak more slowly. When you speak quickly, your ligaments tense, and tense ligaments give a high-pitched voice.

Give compliments

Everyone loves compliments, and women do too. It is pleasant, increases self-esteem, helps to feel special, shows that you are not indifferent to the interlocutor, that you are interested in her as a woman, find her attractive.

Compliments are always a win-win. But it is important not to say compliments exclusively about your appearance, not to allow compliments with obviously sexual connotations at the first meetings - this will give the woman the impression that you are a sexually anxious, unpleasant type.

Examples of compliments:

• You look great, so cute. She reminded me of the heroine of a Disney cartoon.
• You have beautiful hair, how do you take care of it? I think this is real work, you are great.
• The dress suits you very well. ("Hairstyle goes well with the dress", "Decorations go well with the dress", "Nice shoes").
• I like talking to you, you are a very interesting conversationalist. Anything else?
• What an interesting job you have! ("You are studying in such an unusual direction", "You have a cool hobby!").
• When you agreed to see me, I was so glad, I thought about it all day, I couldn't even sleep.

Be sincere. No need to come up with elaborate phrases, keep the compliments simple, but reflecting what you really think.

Don't make mistakes in conversation

A date is a pleasant pastime of two people who may soon find themselves in bed if they realize that they both like each other. The meeting should be comfortable for both.

Therefore, it is important not to turn a joint pastime into a presentation of the talents and achievements of one of the couple, into a dispute on a serious topic or a gossip club. And for this, do not make mistakes:

• Don't gossip.

It doesn't paint anyone. And do not support gossip, if your interlocutor starts it, too - this way you will show yourself a worthy person and avoid an affair with a woman who can spread rumors about you behind her back.

• Don't talk about your past relationship.

If a man on a date tells how good his ex is (or terrible - it doesn't matter), the woman is instantly repulsed by this: it means that he has not yet coped with the past relationship, will compare with his ex - no one likes it.

• Don't talk about potentially conflicting topics.

Politics, religion, childbearing, attitudes towards races and non-traditional orientations. The date turns into a difficult argument if you find yourself on opposite sides of the barricades. Plus, views on politics and religion are personal.

• Don't complain about life.

It repels, makes you a miserable, unpleasant person. You want her to be seduced and not pity you, right? Of course, there are girls who can give themselves up out of pity, but there are not many of them, and in general it is a pity, don't you think?

• Don't talk about money.

In general, this is not bad, but the girl has the impression that she is a "product", and you are bargaining.

• Don't find out what a woman can do around the house.

Does she like to cook, how often does she clean, etc.This creates the feeling that you are not looking for a partner, but a housewife, turns a date into an interview. You will have time to talk about it later, before the wedding, for example- (Well, you never know-).

Instead, talk about abstract topics, look for common interests, discuss movies, books, weather, games - anything but the above.

Don't lie

Sometimes, on dates, men start to overflow with a nightingale: how much they earn (of course, fabulous sums), how luxuriously they live, what kind of apartment they have, a car, a former supermodel.

Even if the girl believes you, it will only give a temporary effect, because sooner or later the truth will be revealed. Plus, telling lies about yourself will attract a girl who doesn't like the real you.

Better to be sincere. Unless your goal is one night stand. But even in this case, if you are a beginner seducer, it is better not to lie.

Avoid sexual connotations

Yes, your goal is to seduce a woman, but that's the catch. Seduction does not mean that you climb into her panties on the first date. On the contrary, seduction means creating anticipation. To create such conditions for the woman herself to want more.

Therefore, teach her to touch, but do not touch with sexual connotations, too intimate. Do not snuggle up to her, do not try to stroke her face, neck, ears, wrists. Touch delicately, softly, appropriately, confidently - and then she herself will want more.

Be a gentleman

Yes, it may seem a little old-fashioned now, and some girls may even react aggressively, but gentlemanly is what always works when it comes to seduction.

Remember what you were taught as a child: give your hand when you get out of the car, open the door, give your coat, come to a meeting with flowers, carry it on your hands through a puddle.

Simple actions, but they make the date more romantic. The girl will remember him for a long time with butterflies in her stomach (and perhaps not only about him, but also about the night of love spent together).

Find your balance

In general, dating is about balancing the extremes. Be confident, but not boastful, interested, but not intrusive, listen, but not be silent all the time, talk about yourself, but not dominate the conversation, joke, but not be a clown.

Any of these extremes makes you unattractive, leaving the girl feeling "selfish", "squeezed, insecure", "cold, disinterested", "maniac", "silent, nothing to talk about", "chatterbox", "boring ", "clown". Maneuver, stay in the golden mean.

Be in control

To seduce a woman, you need to create a comfortable environment for her, the feeling that you sincerely want her to be good, calm, comfortable, confident next to you.

For this, it is very important to observe that the interlocutor is really comfortable in order to correct her behavior in time: if she is bored - joking, cheerful and interested - to continue in the same spirit, not interesting - to change the subject.

Watch for signs:

• Change the subject, say, "I think I got carried away. Tell me about yourself?" - this will instantly charm the interlocutor, showing attention to her.
• Constantly looks into the eyes, smiles, nods, leaned forward to be closer, knees and feet turned in your direction, flushed, eyes shine - it means that everything is fine, keep up the good work, the temptation is working, the desired is close.
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• If a woman asked to stop the topic, said that she is unpleasant, not interested, she does not want to argue - stop, do not press, do not continue the conversation. Be sensitive to the wishes of the interlocutor. It will pay off with something more enjoyable in the near future.

Don't drink too much

On a date, men are often worried, and in order to relax, to feel confident, they decide to lean on before a date or during. Do not do this. Acceptable: a glass of champagne for acquaintance.

Alcohol, even an average dose, distorts the perception of reality, and you can behave unpredictably even for yourself: show unexpected aggression in an argument, tactlessness, obsession.

By doing so, leave a bad impression on the woman.

Give gifts

To come with an expensive present on the first date is a bad idea: this will put the girl in an awkward position, she will involuntarily ask herself the question "what he wants for this." Maximum - a bouquet of flowers or 1 beautiful rose on a long stem, this is quite appropriate and will show you a gentleman.

But if the meeting is not the first, you have already gone on a date several times or were friends before - a gift is appropriate. He must demonstrate attention, so remember stories about hobbies, interests, needs. A gift on duty in the spirit of "all girls love perfume" - no, just not

She is special

Every girl wants to feel special, even if the purpose of the date is quick sex at one time.Create this feeling for her, and she will quickly want to be in the same bed with you.

Try to fall in love for a while, if you are not really in love. Demonstrate interest, attention, say how and why you like her, look with a loving gaze - it's seductive.

Online

Women do not like it when on a date a man was attentive, courteous, sensitive, but as soon as they broke up - as if there was nothing, no attention, messages, as if he had completely forgotten about her until the next meeting.

This raises a logical question: why is this? Didn't he like me? He doesn't think about me, is he indifferent to me? And this is repulsive. Do not allow this, envelop the woman with attention even from a distance.

For example:

• Write what you think about her, expect a new date, remember the previous one;
• Wish good morning and good night;
• Throw off jokes;
• Put the notorious likes on the photo! This is also part of courtship, so you make it clear that you like the woman.
• Throw off cute photos with the caption "reminded you", "reminded us";
• Discuss your next date with her to increase the anticipation.

Important: you should not overdo it, all good things should be in moderation. Play "close-far" so that she has time to miss, think about you, but do not disappear for good, let us know about your person in time.

Read: 333 Cool Chatting Questions to Ask Girls

Support

On dates, the couple communicates a lot, exchanges opinions about something, plans, interests. Naturally, you may not like everything in a woman, some of her hobbies, favorite things may seem stupid, strange, uninteresting.

But if you say this, you will push the girl away from you. Be correct. Support her interests, and if they cause persistent rejection, find the strength to remain silent or to translate the topic. Otherwise, the date will be the last, and no seduction will come of it.