Short intercourse - why men and women finish quickly

Many couples face such a problem as a short sexual intercourse, during which the woman (and in some cases her partner too) does not have time to satisfy her needs, as the man ends quickly.

Indicators of the normal duration of intercourse should be determined for each couple individually - there is no consensus on how much time is considered insufficient. In fact, a short sexual intercourse in a man in most cases is not considered a pathology, although sometimes it acts as a symptom of some diseases. It is seen as a problem to be solved.

The essence of the problem

A full-fledged and high-quality sexual life of a couple is impossible if sexual intercourse does not satisfy the needs of at least one of the partners. The short act suggests that the man either ejaculated or lost his erection before the woman reached orgasm. According to sexologists, contact is considered short, lasting less than 180 seconds, some experts call a large figure - a full-fledged sexual intercourse cannot have a duration of less than 10 minutes. If we turn to statistics, then the shortest sexual intercourse has a duration of about 105 seconds (1 n minutes).

Some pairs indicate smaller numbers - about 30-40 seconds.

However, a number of sexologists in this case argue that it will not be about a short sexual intercourse, but about premature ejaculation. If three minutes of sexual intercourse is enough for a couple to reach orgasm together, then there will be no talk of too short an act. Coitus that does not bring satisfaction to a woman, or to both partners, is considered a problem for which a doctor's consultation is required - he will determine the causes and develop a correction strategy.

Reasons

It can be very difficult to pinpoint the exact cause. Usually, a whole complex of factors affects the body of a man at once, and the result is a very short duration of the act. Last but not least is the age of a man, the intensity of physical and psycho-emotional stress, the nature of sexual life and its rhythm, the general condition of the body, the ecological situation in the region where he lives and works.

The most common reasons for short intercourse:

• Diseases of an infectious nature, as well as inflammation associated with the male genitourinary system;
• High sensitivity of the glans penis;
• Foreskin frenulum syndrome (sometimes in combination with phimosis );
• Vesiculitis (inflammatory process on the seminal tubercles);
• Diseases and injuries of the spine (a man may suffer from hernia, osteochondrosis, multiple sclerosis). Ejaculation is regulated by the spinal cord, and the main role belongs to its lumbosacral region, this is the direct influence of pathologies and violations of its functions on the duration of sexual intercourse;
• Hypersexuality. A man performs a series of sexual acts of short duration in a row. At the same time, increased excitability is noted, which sometimes becomes a consequence of the syndrome of paracentral lobules. The essence of the pathology is the occurrence of a focus of overexcitation in the brain of a man, which leads to a decrease in the duration of sexual contact, pollution and violations of the urination process. A man can acquire this syndrome in childhood with a concussion, or it is a congenital pathology;
• Psycho-emotional overstrain. It occurs if a man previously had problems with potency or the duration of the previous sexual intercourse was insufficient. Fearing a repetition of failure, the partner experiences anxiety that prevents full contact. A similar problem arises if a man is afraid (consciously or subconsciously) of contracting an STI or is afraid of an unplanned conception. Often, a partner provokes psycho-emotional stress with her frigidity or improper behavior.

Diagnostic methods

It is very difficult to determine the cause on your own. It is required to seek advice from narrow specialists: a sexologist, an andrologist, a urologist, a neuropathologist. Often, the analysis of sexual contacts, which is carried out by a sexologist during a conversation with a couple, helps to identify the root cause of the problem and develop an effective strategy for solving it. If the sessions with a specialist did not lead to the desired result, this means that the problem is caused by organic reasons. Then complex diagnostics is required, which includes the following studies:

• Laboratory research of biological material.A man will need to pass on the analysis of the secret of the prostate, urine and / or discharge from the urethra;
• PCR - diagnostics (examination of scrapings);
• Palpation of the prostate and seminal vesicles;
• X-ray examination of the bones of the spine, pelvic bones;
• Ultrasound examination of the scrotum and prostate;
• CT and EEG of the brain.

You should not neglect diagnostics and hope that the problem will be solved "by itself". A short intercourse can be a sign of the development of a pathology that will worsen and eventually lead to serious complications.

If the cause of the problem is not determined in time and treatment is not started, then over time the following negative consequences may appear:

• The appearance of psychological problems, sometimes neurosis;
• Impotence (including early);
• Erectile dysfunction;
• Chronic pathologies of the spine ;
• Diseases of the urogenital area with associated complications.

Techniques for prolonging sexual intercourse

Faced with the fact that sexual intercourse is of insufficient duration, many men try to solve the problem on their own. For this, various "folk" methods are used that increase the duration of intercourse. Among the safe methods that are effective if the cause of the problem is not related to the pathologies of the body, but is of a physiological or psychological nature:

• Control over emotions. To prolong sexual intercourse, sometimes it is enough for a man to mentally distract himself. Some people solve mathematical problems in their heads, some think about work or household problems, or even occupy themselves with unpleasant thoughts. It is enough to stop concentrating on sexual intercourse for a short period of time so that emotional arousal decreases. This will help prolong intercourse;
• Masturbation. A decrease in emotional arousal and prolongation of sexual intercourse is facilitated by masturbation a few hours (recommended interval of 5 - 6 hours) before contact;
• Circumcision is considered a traditional way to reduce the sensitivity of the penis and prolong sexual intercourse;
• Urination control exercises. In a given time period, a man tries to control the process of urination, periodically stopping it and then resuming it.
• Using several condoms at the same time - they need to be put on one over the other. This method also reduces the sensitivity of the male penis.

There are also known harmful methods that cause dysfunction of the prostate gland and lead to the development of prostatitis. Such a dangerous technique is a sharp clamping of the urethra before ejaculation. Under no circumstances should it be practiced. Some men who are faced with the problem of a short intercourse lose confidence in themselves and completely refuse sex. This path leads to sexual dissatisfaction and causes psychological problems.

Timely identification of the problem and the correct approach to the formation of a correction strategy in most cases makes it possible to increase the duration of the act several times. At the same time, treatment should be comprehensive, and only professionals should be trusted to identify the causes and prescribe medicines, medical procedures and psychological techniques.