12 signs how to understand that a woman has 100% finished and had an orgasm

For men, in terms of orgasm it is simple: if there is sperm, then there is an orgasm (although there is also the phenomenon of dry orgasm, when you experience pleasant sensations, but the sperm does not come out). While it is much more difficult to understand that the girl has finished. But you want to know, right?

Read about male orgasm in a separate article (spoiler alert: you will learn a lot of new and interesting!).

The reason is that each girl reacts differently, and not always with wild screams, as in porn. One will freeze and close her eyes, the other will have tears, the third will bend as if in a convulsion. But there are common signs of how to understand that a woman has finished 100%, for example-

Go and study - your partner will like it, she will definitely not be in debt!

Tension and relaxation

People react differently to a sharp and strong release of endorphins at the time of orgasm. The girl feels intense pleasure, and reacts to it: moaning, sinking, sometimes laughing or crying.

However, at the level of specific physiological reactions, orgasm is the same for both sexes, so you can trace how her body reacts to understand whether she has an orgasm or is imitating.

In particular, during orgasm, the body is very tense. Perhaps she bends, stretches, squeezes her legs tightly, presses you closer to her, digs her nails into your back.

In any case, you feel muscle tension. At some point, it reaches a peak, then the girl relaxes, becomes limp, breathes heavily (then more slowly) - moves away, rests.

Breathing

Orgasm is an absolutely physiological phenomenon. The sensations from it, if we remove the sensory component directly, are similar to the sensations from good, high-quality physical activity.

So listen to your partner's breathing. Before orgasm, it either becomes more frequent, becomes heavy, ragged, or she holds her breath, tries to better focus on the sensations in the lower abdomen.

After muscle cramps (mentioned above), breathing will become deep, heavy, as after a good physical training - this restores blood circulation after stress on the body.

By the way, advice: if you notice that your partner is holding her breath before orgasm - advise you to stop doing this and start breathing deeply, even if the orgasm has almost happened. Breathing allows blood to circulate more intensively throughout the body.

Accordingly, the genitals will receive more blood flow, and muscle contraction during orgasm will increase. For the male body is also relevant.

Heartbeat

During sensual interactions, the couple is close to each other, so it is easy to feel the partner's pulse - just press your lips against the neck, carotid artery, touch your fingers (if the posture or type of sex does not allow you to do this with your lips.).

The heartbeat at the climax accelerates, becomes hasty, uneven. Because of this, the girl blushes, sweat appears on her forehead, neck, chest. This is because intercourse is quite intense physical activity, even in the laziest and most relaxed position.

And during orgasm, the heartbeat, blood circulation increase even more, so the girl sweats and blushes.

Just don't look away-

You can tell if a girl has reached the point by looking. No, no heart-shaped pupils and rolled eyes like in hentai, no adoration - you live in the real world.

"Okay, I understand, - perhaps, you say, - then how to understand that a girl soon, almost got an orgasm? Where to look, her eye color is changing?".

Of course not. Here are the signs:

• Girls often close their eyes to better focus on the sensations. Plus, from the tension that now restrains her body, she can throw her head back, turn her face away, burrow into the pillow.
• The look becomes defocused, clouded, she is focused on sensations, as if "not here", as if she imagines something in her head.

Read: how to understand that a girl is using you (main signs)

Emotional reaction after sex

During orgasm, an increased dose of endorphin, the hormone of happiness, pleasure, is released into the bloodstream, plus physically strong relief occurs, so after orgasm, people of both sexes experience emotional relaxation.

This means that the girl looks calm, relaxed, satisfied, as if she has completed a difficult process, and now she is calm, well, she feels relief, peace. But keep in mind - the emotional sphere is very individual, therefore:

• First, the degree of emotional satisfaction depends on the girl. Someone feels the emotions of the level "fu-u-uh-good. Well, let's go see the series", someone - stronger, some need to lie down, rest.
• Secondly, pacification and relaxation do not always happen.Sometimes after the climax comes irritation, adrenaline, a desire for activity, perhaps a snack.

Sensitivity enhancement

After the climax, the body usually gives a reaction: "Stop, that's enough, you need a break, you need to cool down, don't touch us for a while." Therefore, immediately after orgasm, the human body (of any sex), especially the genitals, becomes very sensitive.

You could feel this on yourself: after the completion of the act, you will probably be hurt by touching the head of the penis. It also hurts the girl if you touch the clitoris, nipples, and other intimate and sensitive places.

Checking, of course, is not worth it, you do not want to hurt your loved one. But if you touched the clitoris, even gently, and in response, your beloved twitched, moaned painfully, asked to stop, it means that she has just experienced an orgasm and does not want more yet.

Sleepiness

When finished, people often feel sleepy. Reason: a sharp increase, and then a decline in physical activity: the heart rate, blood pressure sharply increases, breathing quickens, muscles tense - and then relaxation comes abruptly.

Plus the release of hormones contributes to falling asleep, so often, after finishing, girls fall asleep for a short time or just look sleepy, tired, it takes some time to feel cheerful.

Because of this, by the way, somnologists (scientists who study sleep) recommend making love or masturbating (the best first!) to improve the quality of sleep. Life hack!

Read: 15 rules on how to put on and take off a condom (95% of men make mistakes).

Genital signs

Intimacy is an intense, rather sticky, wet activity, so it is not a fact that you recognize these signs when you have vaginal sex, because the penis pulsates like the vagina and also secretes lubricant.

But if you give a girl cunnilingus, caress your fingers (which, by the way, will lead to orgasm much more likely than a simple penetrating act), then you will notice the signs:

• The labia will swell, increase. If a girl shaves her bikini area, you will notice how the labia are reddened, look slightly inflamed due to blood flow, like a man's erection.
• The clitoris will especially swell and enlarge (of course, not as much as the male genital organ). The clitoral hood will be pulled in, a small piece of flesh that covers the head of the clitoris.
• Caressing the girl's vagina with your fingers or tongue, at the time of orgasm you will feel the contraction of the walls, pulsation. Bad news: girls know how to make them contract deliberately.

Therefore, watch out for the nature of the abbreviations. During orgasm, contractions are fast, rhythmic, in time with the heartbeat, because these contractions are due to blood flow.

• A girl can rhythmically move her hips towards your movements, squeeze her hips, trying to enhance sensations, stretch, squeeze her legs, press the guy's head more tightly to the vagina, if we are talking about cunnilingus.

Comparison with adult videos (correct)

Above you read that it is from porn that legs grow from unrealistic ideas about the orgasm of women, because porn broadcasts the image of not a real woman, but a nymph from the hottest fantasies, and then guys have to face reality. Oops.

By the way, women are also often confused about this: "In porn, during an orgasm, women wriggle, moan, but I don't want to do that - that means I don't have an orgasm at all? Or is it not strong enough? Or am I something Am I doing it wrong? Am I frigid? ".

However, 18+ videos can show how real women behave. If this is an amateur video shooting.

There are no professional actresses, directors who force them to behave in a certain way, the need to choose a beautiful angle (actors have to freeze in the most intricate pose and wait for the operator to find the angle).

In amateur porn, real couples have real sex, allowing you to see how he looks from the outside.

You can also watch porn with masturbation. There, the girls, if they exaggerate their reactions in order to seem more attractive, then not much, and you will see how a real orgasm occurs. Then you can already compare with the feelings of your chosen one.

BUT! DO NOT get carried away! Porn addiction is awake!

Just ask straight

The easiest, most logical and reliable way to understand if a partner has finished

Bad news: it is almost impossible to recognize imitation. The features that are listed here and elsewhere on a similar topic lend themselves to simulation. Muscle tension, intermittent breathing (from which the heartbeat speeds up), groans - and the partner is sure that the girl has finished.

Reasons:

• Fear of offending, desire to support the partner's self-esteem.

Men are rarely able to adequately respond to the news "I'm sorry, dear, I didn't like it, I didn't finish" - much more often girls hear accusations of frigidity, anger in response, men say that the problem is in the woman, and he, the man, did everything correct.

Women naturally do not want to face aggressive reactions. Therefore, it is easier to stimulate than to argue, explain, deal with an offended man.

• Desire to end the process as soon as possible.

There is an idea that sex must necessarily end with an orgasm. It seems logical: otherwise why, in fact, make love. However, in reality, both men and women are far from being able to experience an orgasm every time.

Their minds can be occupied with gloomy thoughts. Or too tired to experience strong feelings of relaxation. Or there is simply no mood right now.

At the same time, the process of sexual interaction itself may well give a couple pleasure: hugs, kisses, pleasant stimulation of erogenous zones - this contributes to the production of oxytocin (the hormone of intimacy, stimulates the feeling of affection, calmness, security) and endorphin, the hormone of joy.

But because of the attitude “sex must end with an orgasm”, intimacy in the format of pleasant sexual interaction without orgasm seems to be incomplete. And girls / women are stimulating.

The second option, sadder: sex is so unpleasant that it is more profitable for a girl to stimulate an orgasm to stop the process than to explain what her partner is doing wrong.

Often this happens because a man considers long-term frictions of a member in the vagina to be good sex. Back and forth, back and forth. Reference: most women do not experience an orgasm from vaginal stimulation, without clitoral stimulation.

• It's easier to stimulate than to explain how to truly enjoy.

It happens that a man does not show sensitivity in bed, or just not a very skillful lover. In all other respects, the girl is satisfied with the relationship, but in bed - a full 0, explanations do not help, and it becomes easier to stimulate than to try to explain.

Therefore, women imitate. It's easier to ask directly. But it's important to ask right.

How:

• Don't ask questions during sex. "Are you done already?" in the middle of the process, instantly stops all excitement. Ask after, when the sex is over, gently, not "head-on".
• Arrange a comfortable environment for your partner. Say that you are ready to hear a negative answer, she can be honest, you will not be offended, and you want to give her real pleasure.

Because women are afraid of offending their partner. To the question "honey, did you like it?" the only possible answer for them is: "Of course, the best sex in life!" She doesn't want to lie to you - she's just afraid of offending you.

• Don't be offended. If once, asking "honey, have you finished?" and having received a negative answer, you are offended - you will never hear the truth again. Be ready to calmly accept any answer, be open to constructive dialogue.

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Don't believe the myths

The female orgasm is poorly understood. The topic is stigmatized. Women are embarrassed to talk about how they actually experience it: how often, how intensely, how they behave.

Therefore, there are many different myths hovering around the topic. It is worth getting rid of many to make your sex life healthier, more enjoyable, clearer and better:

• Apart from the physical signs listed above (muscle tension, redness, heart palpitations, breathing, pulsation in the lower abdomen), there are no general signs of orgasm. It can be different: loud, intense, quiet, with tears, groans, laughter - whatever.
• Different women experience orgasms of varying intensity: quick, light, intense, after which you need to rest for a long time. This is fine. Depends on the physiology, temperament of a particular woman, on how long she has not had intimacy, etc.
• Squirt does not mean more intense orgasm. Squirting does not mean orgasm at all, it is due to the stimulation of Sin's glands, which have nothing to do with orgasm. Squirting can accompany or occur without orgasm, or before orgasm.
• Excitement is accompanied by lubrication, it is true, but there are women in whom it is physiologically less secreted. It doesn’t make her unhealthy, wrong, not aroused enough - it’s just a feature of her physiology.
• "The longer the better" is a myth. Prolonged frictions with a penis in the vagina can even be painful - the penis literally rubs. The pleasure depends on the skills of the partner. Of course, we are not talking about a quick act of 2 minutes, but it is not necessary to crawl back and forth for half an hour.

Look at yourself, take a closer look

Men and women belong to the 1st species - man, and orgasm is tied to physiology.Therefore, remember yourself at the moment of orgasm and look for the same signs in a woman (no, not identical, but similar in sensations).

Tension in the body, confused, fast breathing, fast heartbeat, defocused gaze, desire to quickly get relief, pulsation in the lower abdomen, sensitivity of the genitals after.

You can continue indefinitely, described separately above-

All this is characteristic of both men and women. Signs can be different - Learn to identify them from your young lady. This is the only way to 100% understand that she had an orgasm (finished!).