A member fell during sex - what a man needs to know after this

Problems in the intimate sphere periodically occur in every couple. The condition when the penis falls during sex is a man's greatest fear. After failure, there is awkwardness, self-doubt, fear that nothing will work out again. Due to complexes and nervous tension, sexual function is further reduced, a vicious circle is formed. 1 "Misfires" are caused by psychological or physiological factors, but they can also indicate diseases of the genitourinary sphere. 2

A member falls during intercourse: causes and solutions to the problem

Before you panic and think about impotence, you should analyze the condition and think if there were any objective reasons. It is important to understand that disorders in the intimate sphere occur even in a healthy person. We will understand each of them, and how to be a man, what to do.

Sexual Failure Anxiety Expectation Syndrome

Occurs in vulnerable and insecure men who previously had a bad experience with a partner. The catalyst for the pathology could be a rash statement or laughter of a woman, quarrels based on low-quality sex.

When intimacy due to obsessive thoughts "I will not work again" excitement disappears before the introduction of a member into the vagina. At the same time, normal morning and spontaneous erections remain, diseases of the genitourinary system are absent. 3

The syndrome is classified as a psychological disorder, so a frank conversation with a partner and joint work of a couple to overcome the disorder will help. If it doesn't work out, you should contact a psychologist. Read more about STOSN here.

Penis size mismatch with vagina size

It so happens that a woman's vagina is too narrow due to individual anatomical features. With insufficient arousal and lack of lubrication, it is not possible to "enter" for a long time or penetration is accompanied by friction and soreness, respectively, the guy's penis falls right during love, both in the first and second cases.

There is also the opposite situation - a too wide vagina after childbirth (or such anatomy) does not give the necessary tactile sensations, because of which arousal can suddenly disappear. As a rule, at the beginning of intimacy, everything is fine, but closer to the middle or towards the end, when the partner is excited and everything expands there, the penis falls due to a decrease in sensitivity.

In case of excessive narrowness, it is necessary to use artificial lubricant and carefully prepare the girl for sexual intercourse (more foreplay). If the vagina is too wide, the woman should start doing Kegel exercises to increase muscle tone, which will not only solve the problem, but also further improve the pleasant sensations of intimacy for both partners. 4

Problem with vessels in the pelvic organs

Pathology is more common at the age of 45+. At this time, chronic diseases such as atherosclerosis, diabetes mellitus, neuropathy are possible. Insufficient blood supply to the genital organ complicates the excitation processes. With sexual desire, little blood rushes to the penis, the erection is sluggish and can spontaneously disappear.

To enhance vascular filling, men are recommended to have a contrast shower, alternating warm and cool sitz baths. Massage, moderate strength training, and regular walking at a calm pace help to improve the flow to the small pelvis. If a diagnosis is made related to vascular disorders, it is important to start treatment in a timely manner. 5

Be sure to read the article: "How to increase blood flow to the penis in 7 ways".

Chronic stress and fatigue

The basis of arousal is psychological factors, so if a man is not tuned in to intimacy, and his head is busy with other problems or thoughts, a high-quality sexual intercourse will not work. Due to stress, the nervous regulation of the sexual sphere is disrupted, an erection comes too slowly, and it is unstable.

When emotionally overworked and burned out, it is not uncommon for a member to fall right in the middle of coitus.

After eliminating the causal factors, the situation improves. It was recommended to normalize the daily routine, stop overtime shifts at work and try to devote more time to relaxation. A person should understand exactly what events or situations cause him constant stress, try to avoid provoking factors.

Overexcited

If a man experiences arousal for a long time without the possibility of its realization, a "misfire" may occur at the most crucial moment. It often happens that the penis is excited and is on alert for several hours, and before insertion into the vagina, the erection abruptly disappears. This is due to the peculiarities of blood filling and blood deposition in the corpus cavernosum.

If a member fell quickly, it is important for a man to stop trying to "enter" and calm down.It is necessary to take several deep breaths to regulate breathing and cardiac activity. If possible, you should get dressed and go outside for 5-10 minutes (at least on the balcony). Often after that, everything works out (the main thing is not to dwell on failure). 1

Insufficient sensitivity of the penis

Pathology is quite common, especially in middle and old age. The reason for this may be chronic urogenital diseases, disorders of the central and peripheral nervous system, perineal trauma. Due to the lack of proper stimulation, sex turns into mechanical friction, as a result of which the genital organ may fall in the process.

To increase the sensitivity of the penis, lubricants with a stimulating effect are recommended, which will enhance the acuteness of sensations in both partners. Other drugs can also be used (preferably on a natural basis). It takes more time for a man to tune in, so it is important to carry out foreplay with fondling of the penis until a strong desire and a lasting erection is achieved.

Complexes

One of the most popular causes of intimate disorders, which is observed in both young men and mature men. Most often, they are ashamed of the size of the penis, considering it too small to please the partner. Sex becomes a real test, the member can fall even during foreplay or at the beginning of intercourse.

To establish intimacy, you should get rid of complexes that basically have no real basis and exist only "in the head". If you have a regular partner, you can delicately discuss this topic with her, ask her to be understanding and help to liberate herself during intimacy. In advanced cases, individual advice from an experienced psychologist is needed. 5

Unattractiveness or uncleanliness of the partner

Lack of attraction to the girl is a common factor why the penis falls during sex. This happens when fulfilling a conjugal duty, when a husband tries to fulfill his wife's desire for intimacy, but he himself has long cooled down to her, or is going through a difficult period.

Solution: shake-up, new approaches to sex (clothes, smells, places), the wife should devote time to her appearance, figure, hair. The desire should be mutual, this is the only way everything will turn out efficiently and without falling the penis during intercourse.

The erection disappears, and if an unpleasant smell of the partner's genitals is felt before penetration, signs of skin diseases in the intimate area are noticed. In 35% (according to statistics) of men, excitement disappears at the sight of a dense, unkempt growth.

There is no man's fault in this situation. You should talk to the girl delicately, explain to her the reasons for aversion to sexual intercourse and ask to eliminate unpleasant moments. Before making love, both partners need a hygienic shower to avoid such misunderstandings.

Too much sex or masturbation

Each person has a certain type of sexual constitution, which determines how often he needs intimate relationships. If in recent days a man has had a rich sex life, one or two "misfires" are considered normal. Frequent masturbation is dangerous by rubbing the skin of the penis and reducing its sensitivity, which also leads to problems with intercourse.

If a guy feels that he is already "exhausted", you should not rape yourself and continue sexual intercourse at any cost. The pleasure of the partner can be delivered in other ways, but it is better for yourself to abstain for 2-3 days, until persistent attraction and erection reappear. As for masturbation, you do not need to forbid yourself this activity (if there is no partner), but urologists advise you to approach masturbation wisely and not engage in it too often.

Sleep Deficit

With a lack of sleep, the depletion of the whole organism is observed, the level of sex hormones decreases, the psychological components of arousal disappear. The only desire at such a moment is to have a good rest, and not have sex, so a sluggish erection and a fall of the penis in the process is a frequent occurrence.

"Misfires" against the background of severe fatigue and insomnia are not considered a pathology. After a person gets enough sleep and regains strength, his sexual potential will be fully revealed. The girl should not force her partner, because in this case, none of the couple will get pleasure. 5

Low testosterone

Androgen is responsible for the functioning of the reproductive system, regulates libido and the formation of an erection, so the fall of the penis during sex is one of the first bells of hormonal imbalance. At the same time, spontaneous and morning risers appear much less often, a man does not experience a healthy attraction to the opposite sex, his need for intimacy completely disappears.

The situation when a member fell during sex becomes regular.

To raise testosterone levels, you need to add celery, seafood, ginger, onions and other foods that are good for male strength to the diet.Experts recommend exercising regularly because physical activity increases the release of the hormone. To quickly restore balance, you can use herbal dietary supplements for potency. 1

Ecdysterone-S has recently become very popular among our patients.

Bad habits: smoking and alcohol

Toxins from cigarettes and alcohol have a direct damaging effect on the testicles, as a result of which testosterone and sperm production decreases, which is accompanied by a decrease in libido. A guy rarely has a desire to have sex, and at the beginning of intercourse, there are often cases of a member falling in the midst of the action.

The solution to the problem is very simple, but difficult to implement - to completely quit smoking and limit alcohol intake as much as possible. The common practice of drinking 100 grams "for courage" before sex will not be the best solution, as it will further aggravate erectile dysfunction. Maximum, a glass of good red wine, and even then not often.

Putting on the condom

A typical male problem is associated with both the wrong selection of the product and psychological characteristics.

In the first option, a member in a condom falls if the contraceptive is too small and narrow (or not properly dressed). The elastic band squeezes the organ, interferes with blood circulation, so an erection is not maintained.

The psychogenic factor is more common among inexperienced guys who try to quickly and beautifully put on the condom under the close supervision of their partner, which is why they are very nervous and cannot maintain arousal.

To resolve the issue, you need to select thin condoms of optimal width (the size in mm should correspond to the thickest place of the erect penis). Young men should practice putting on the garment alone in order to accustom themselves to new sensations.

Which condoms are better and how to choose a condom - read in a separate article.

First experience

Virgo guys have an intense fear of sex, which is completely normal.

Against the background of psychological experiences, it is difficult to achieve persistent arousal, and during penetration into the vagina, the young man may panic, as a result of which the erection disappears. Often this is also the first time for a girl, so she cannot help and support her partner, as she herself is going through an exciting experience.

A guy shouldn't be worried if there were failures during his first sex. With repeated intimacy and increasing experience, the quality of intimacy will improve. Everyone goes through this stage in life, the main thing is not to make a grandiose tragedy out of one mistake and not to earn unnecessary complexes, and with them psychological erectile dysfunction.

Chronic diseases of the genitourinary system

Prostatitis, orchitis, prostate adenoma are typical etiological factors of potency disorders in any age group. Moreover, these are only the most common, there are more diseases.

Chronic inflammatory processes, violation of the normal anatomy of the genital organs, benign (and not only) formations negatively affect the processes of arousal, and failures during intimacy haunt a man regularly. The symptom is complemented by heaviness and pain in the lower abdomen, discomfort during urination and other signs specific to a specific disease. 3

It is not possible to cope with urogenital diseases without the help of doctors (urologist, andrologist, surgeon). An in-person consultation with a urologist is shown to identify the cause and start treatment.

What else is important for a man to consider

You need to understand how quickly recovery from a misfire occurs. If a fallen member after a rest pleases with a persistent erection again, the guy has nothing to worry about. But the inability to re-excite during the night indicates possible deviations.

Another point is age. In young people, bed troubles happen much less often, but with age, when the effects of stress and chronic diseases accumulate, failures in sex are more common, and this is part of the natural aging process of the body.

Normal or abnormal - when it is important to "sound the alarm"

After one "fiasco" you shouldn't write yourself off and imagine a terrible picture of impotence. With erectile dysfunction, at least a quarter of all sexual intercourse ends with a drop in the penis or a complete lack of erection, despite prolonged stimulation. If a man has rare setbacks caused by overwork or lack of attraction, that's okay.

There are a number of signs of sexual abuse:

• lack of morning erections;
• a sharp decrease in libido;
• inability to reach a boner by masturbating;
• the need for too long foreplay and sexual stimulation to develop a stable erection with a partner;
• premature ejaculation (permanent).

How long not to finish - read here, and how to prolong sexual intercourse - in this article. We also talked in detail about what ejaculation is, go ahead and read.

What to do in such a situation? The main thing is not to panic and not ascribe frightening diagnoses to yourself. You should visit (in person) a urologist-andrologist. The doctor specializes in delicate male pathologies, he will prescribe a complete diagnosis of the body in order to identify the causes of the failure. After treatment (if necessary), sexual performance begins to recover (sometimes abruptly, in other cases - gradually). 1

5 important rules for preventing the problem

In order not to get into an awkward situation when a member falls during intercourse, a man should follow 5 recommendations:

Literature used in compiling the material: